I fought a battle similar to this, i ended up saying F it and bought my own harness with a keyfob remote for my lights.
I am better off now because the OEM harness wouldnt have handled the amps im running. i just keep the remote in my sunglasses holder, it will flash SOS and stuff too lol. AND they will turn on and off without stipulations.
Proryde adjustable strut spacer 2"
RC preload ring 1"
ProComp 1" rear lift block
RC 1.25" body lift
AS diff drop
Wheel spacers 1.5"
4 AuxBeam 6" round 60 watt led offroad lights
Air Dam delete
FabTech inbed angled spare tire carrier
Sylvania zXe low beams